Learning to enjoy your own company

Being comfortable with your own company is something that takes time. It may sound easy to spend time alone, but when we are not used to it, silence can feel strange. We may automatically reach for Phone, open social media or look for someone to talk to. Slowly, we can learn that being alone does not have to mean being bored or unhappy.

One of the easiest way to become comfortable alone is to start with small amount of time. We do not have to suddenly spend an entire weekend by ourselves. We can simply sit in our room for a while without constantly checking our phone. We can have breakfast alone, take a short walk or watch something we enjoy without feeling like we need someone beside us.
At first, these moments may feel a little uncomfortable. We might notice our thoughts more clearly when there are fewer distractions around us. Sometimes that can actually be a good thing. We may finally noticed that we are tired, stress, or thinking about something that has been bothering us. Instead of immediately distracting ourself, we get a chance to understand what is going on.

Being alone can also give us the freedom to do things at our own pace. When we are with other people, we naturally adjust to their schedule and preferences. When we are alone, we can decide what we want to do without explaining to anyone, We can eat what we are hungry for, listen to the music we like, take a long shower, clean our room or simply lie down for a while.

There is also something nice about not having to perform for anyone. When we are around people, even with people we like, we sometimes think about how we look, what we are saying or how we are being perceived. When we are alone, the pressure disappears. We can be completely ordinary list of we can wear comfortable clothes, make a silly face at ourselves, sing badly, or spend an hour doing absolutely nothing.

I think this is one of the most peaceful part of being alone. Nobody is judging us because nobody is watching.

Being comfortable alone can also make our relationship better. When we are not afraid of being alone, we do not have to stay connected to people simply because we are scared of being by our self. We can choose relationship because they make us happy rather than because we need someone to fill every empty moment.

The goal is not to force ourselves to love solitude every day. It is simply to stop being afraid of it.
Overtime, we may discover that being alone can actually be enjoyable. He start finding little rotis that make us happy and become more comfortable with our own thoughts.

Maybe the real benefit of learning to enjoy your own company is that we become less dependent On constant noise. We learn that silence does not always need to be filled and that our own company can sometimes be in enough.