The Measure of a Heart: A Partnership of Faith

What the Quran Teaches Us About Choosing a Spouse
1. Someone who treats you with kindness.
Surah An-Nisa (4:19)
Arabic: وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
English Translation: "And live with them in kindness."
— Quran 4:19
Choose someone who treats you with kindness, respect, and compassion.
2. Someone who controls their anger
📖 Surah Aal-Imran (3:134)
Arabic: وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
English Translation: "Those who restrain their anger and pardon people—and Allah loves the doers of good."
— Quran 3:134
🤍 Choose someone who controls their anger instead of hurting you with it.
3. Someone who is humble
📖 Surah Al-Furqan (25:63)
Arabic: وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا
English Translation: "And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth humbly."
— Quran 25:63
🤍 Choose someone whose character is beautiful, not someone whose ego is bigger than their love.
4. Someone who keeps their promises
📖 Surah An-Nahl (16:91)
Arabic: وَأَوْفُوا بِعَهْدِ اللَّهِ إِذَا عَاهَدتُّمْ
English Translation: "And fulfil the covenant of Allah when you have made a covenant."
— Quran 16:91
🤍 Choose someone whose words and actions match.
5. Someone who is trustworthy
📖 Surah Al-Mu'minun (23:8)
Arabic: وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِأَمَانَاتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَاعُونَ
English Translation: "And those who are faithfully true to their trusts and their covenants."
— Quran 23:8
🤍 Choose someone you can trust with your heart, your dignity, and your future.
6. Someone who lowers their gaze
📖 Surah An-Nur (24:30)
Arabic: قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ
English Translation: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity."
— Quran 24:30
🤍 Choose someone who respects boundaries and protects their modesty.
7. Someone who is not arrogant
📖 Surah Luqman (31:18)
Arabic: وَلَا تُصَعِّرْ خَدَّكَ لِلنَّاسِ وَلَا تَمْشِ فِي الْأَرْضِ مَرَحًا ۖ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ
English Translation: "And do not turn your nose up at people, nor walk pridefully upon the earth. Surely Allah does not like whoever is arrogant and boastful."
— Quran 31:18
🤍 Choose someone who respects others regardless of their status.
8. Someone who believes in Allah
📖 Surah Al-Baqarah (2:221)
Arabic: وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ
English Translation: "And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you."
— Quran 2:221, excerpt
🤍 Choose someone whose faith and values help you grow closer to Allah.
Note: This verse discusses marriage and religious faith in its specific historical and religious context.
9. Someone who brings peace into your life
📖 Surah Ar-Rum (30:21)
Arabic: وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً
English Translation: "And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy."
— Quran 30:21, excerpt
🤍 Choose someone with whom you can find comfort, affection, and mercy.
10. Someone who values prayer
📖 Surah Ta-Ha (20:132)
Arabic: وَأْمُرْ أَهْلَكَ بِالصَّلَاةِ وَاصْطَبِرْ عَلَيْهَا
English Translation: "And enjoin prayer upon your family and be steadfast therein."
— Quran 20:132, excerpt
Choose someone who values Salah and encourages you to strengthen your relationship with Allah.
11. Someone who is truthful
📖 Surah At-Tawbah (9:119)
Arabic: يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَكُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِينَ
English Translation: "O you who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are truthful."
— Quran 9:119
🤍 Choose someone who tells the truth even when it is difficult.
12. Someone who is grateful
📖 Surah Ibrahim (14:7)
Arabic: وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ
English Translation: "And when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you.'"
— Quran 14:7, excerpt
Choose someone who appreciates what Allah has given them and does not take your efforts for granted.
13. Someone who honours their parents
📖 Surah Al-Isra (17:23)
Arabic: وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا
English Translation: "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents."
— Quran 17:23, excerpt
🤍 Choose someone who understands kindness, gratitude, and responsibility toward their parents.
14. Someone who values family ties
📖 Surah Muhammad (47:22)
Arabic: فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي
الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ
English Translation: "So would you perhaps, if you turned away, spread corruption on earth and sever your ties of kinship?"
— Quran 47:22, excerpt
🤍 Choose someone who values family relationships and understands the importance of maintaining kinship ties.