People pleasing

I often take decisions which are to please other people, even though that might not be something that I truly want.

Yesterday my house help who is a bit younger than me asked me to go to Mela with her.

I agreed, I really wanted to go, and there had been ages since I went to one of those.

So in the late evening she called and I told her okay I'd come, but when I got ready, my grandmother said what is the necessity to go at this late hour. Even my father told that it's not a very good place, who knows what kind of people will come, there's a slum near that.

Hearing all this, I also thought that maybe I should refrain, and I called her and told, I can't come.

But now I'm feeling so guilty, I had told her that I would come. Later she had to go with her mother, I thought her other friends will be there but I didn't know she only planned to go with me.

And I cancelled.

I'm feeling so guilty. Not only I disappointed her, I disappointed myself.

I should do what I truly want to do rather than to impress parents or grandparents.

I will listen to my heart from now on.

No people pleasing.

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